I have finally done it over a year later!
Started with a Zooz ZEN51 mounted in the fixture connected to the 3-way switch. This allowed me to see when the switch was on and control the light. You could also use one of these cheap zigbee switches I think but I like having the button events from the ZEN51.
For the other fixtures I finally landed on some zigbee mini switches from AliExpress. Mainly due to the price being between only $6-8 each! Decided to try out two different ones, and they both work really well so far just have slightly different wiring. Just make sure you get Zigbee and not Wifi on accident.
Set it up so when the switch is flipped the stair light and one socket by the freezer turns on. This is all we normally need. Then if you flip the switch 2x quickly the ZEN51 counts it as a doubleTap so I have that turning on the entire basement. Setup a timer for that option so it only stays on for 1 hr.
