The same thing happens to me. You can't get over it, I don't think.
I'd suggest you switch to @JasonJoel 's excellent driver, link below.
(On a side note, I don't why know @bobbyD closed the thread, since it's a driver thread still in use.)
I use it in a house full of those toggle switches.
It gives you the equivalent of 6 buttons, but of course, one up and one down will still turn on/off the main relay.
Now, if you wanted to stick with the factory driver, I guess you could make a double tap up toggle the fan, and a double tap down toggle the led strip.
But, with @JasonJoel 's driver, you could use a double tap up and down to turn on/off the fan, and a triple tap up and down to turn on/off the led strip.
