I think it would be best to provide a little more detail on at least one of the issues you are seeing, such as:
What make/model are the device(s) involved, including the protocol used (Zigbee, Z-Wave, Wi-Fi, etc)?
What driver are you using for the devices?
What Events are you seeing (or not seeing), accessible through the Event button at the top of the Device Details page for the device)?
What automation apps are you using the devices in? E.g. Rule Machine, Simple Rules, Room Lighting, etc?
If you turn on logging for the devices and the apps involved what do you see?
Posting screenshots of any or all of these can be helpful, in particular the App setup screens and any logs.
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