I don't need help, I'm posting this here for others as a solution to a problem, for anyone who may be in a similar situation with their home wiring.
Background: I have a three way circuit in my hallway, wired in the ceiling box. During a major renovation, there just was no need to tear down the drywall on that side of the hall, so unlike all my other circuits in the house, I did not rewire this one to have neutral in the boxes for a smart switch. I thought, "I don't really need the hallway light smart anyway, right?"
Well, over the last few years, as I have continued to "smartify" everything I could in the house, that dumb hallway light has just been laughing at me. Here is the problem: It is a three way circuit, wired in the ceiling box, with three-wire cables going down to each switch box.
This is the best diagram I could find below, but I don't have four wires like in the diagram, just three; red, black and white, and that is the problem. Without four wires going to either box, a smart in-wall switch was out, as it needs line in, neutral in, load out, and a traveler. There was just no re-wiring scenario possible with only three wires to both boxes. My circuit uses the white wire where blue is in the diagram.

I decided I would just put a mini Zigbee switch up in the ceiling box, and wire the three way circuit to act as a single switch to the smart mini switch, using the switch terminal. The plan was like this:

Then I decided if a switch is good, a dimmer is better, so I ended up buying a mini Zigbee dimmable switch on Ali Express for $7.50 (at the time). Note that they don't actually show the Zigbee version, the Zigbee has a single switch terminal, and a single dimmer terminal, not +/- terminals for dimming like in the picture.
I got it all wired up and surprise! That switch terminal does not take a regular switch and toggle when the state is changed (like other mini switches do), it takes a momentary switch (button). I could turn the light on and off by throwing the switch off and on again, but that is really annoying. Then I wondered, what does the dimmer terminal actually do then?
So I tested the dimmer terminal. It also wants a momentary switch, but in addition to toggling on and off with a single press, I found that it brightens when held, and then dims when held again. Wow, I can get on/off and level adjust with a single button, and I can add as many buttons as I want in parallel ![]()
So I bought a couple of decora momentary switches from Amazon:
I then totally removed the three way circuit wiring, and just wired the two momentary switches in parallel to the dimmer terminal, switching neutral. The black wire was not needed anymore.
This was the end result (note, the ceiling box with the wiring is now used for a smoke detector, as I moved the light to be recessed in the center of the hallway, so the smoke detector is included in the wiring diagram).

So the end result is I now have a smart hall light, with two physical switches that can turn on/off and dim/brighten the light. Not that I will use the physical switches (buttons) much, as I also added a motion sensor and automations for what level to turn the light on with motion, based on the time of day.
So, I just thought I would share this here in case anyone has a three way circuit like mine, and still wants the light to be smart and have multiple physical switch controls. It's doable! ![]()
