Ixnay on the frustrating!!!
With that said,
get yourself a Harmony hub (EDIT: I didn't see RF and the Harmony Hub doesn't do RF). Or, alternately, the Broadlink hub. I don't know how well it works, but it had gotten some good reviews. The Harmony Hub would be my first choice if price isn't an issue.
There's also the Sonoff RF which is good, but you'd need to flash it with Tasmota or the Sonoff firmware here in the forums to make it work with HE.