Ok I finally got this thing setup. I ordered a Bond and it took forever to get here but finally I got it and set it up. I set it up with the hunter fan remote it found a similar remote and I used that which worked just fine. Then I wired the light on the fan to bypass the Hunter box. It uses its own controller to dim the light but I wanted to use a wall dimmer so I bypassed the harness and connected the lights to the hot and neutral coming from my switch no problem.
For the fan speed the fan has a DC motor I found when I took thing apart to wire the lights in. I linked the Bond with the fan, all went well. Then I hardwired the fan so power is always on with the fan and the remote will control it.
I have a Leviton fan controller in the wall with the load connected to nothing, power to the hot and neutral like normal. I went in rule machine and setup some rules. If the switch is off turn the fan off, if on high then set fan speed to high, etc. The Leviton is 4 speed but the fan is 3 speed. So I just duplicated the low to set low. If you set the speed control to spot 1 or 2 it sets speed to low, spot 3 medium, spot 4 high.
Done and it works now. A bit overkill but the wall switch works like normal and the fan works correctly.